Sure many of us would love to be this shapely, but we just are not. Please be age appropriate in your presentation, not many 60 something years olds wearing fusia mini skirts in public these days…read on to find out the “do’s”  and “never’s” in fashion!!

Walk into any mall and you'll see a 40-something woman wearing every trend from Forever 21: tight tank top, low-rise jeans, metallic platform heels, plastic bangles and oversized earrings. Are you a middle-aged fashionista who just doesn't know when to quit? Read on for the top 10 clothing items to leave in the past.
Young and trendy clothes may look great on the killer body of a 40-plus woman. After all, Goldie Hawn shines in her trendy outfits even though they look like she raided daughter Kate Hudson's closet. But should she?
Definitely not, says celebrity wardrobe stylist Ricci DeMartino, whose clients include Eva Longoria Parker, Patricia Heaton and Lisa Kudrow.
"Living in L.A. like I do, you can go to Malibu and see this look any day of the week!" DeMartino says. "But trying too hard only calls attention to yourself - it's overcompensating. You don't need to dress like a teenager to look young."
Most of us don't push the clothes age barrier nearly as far, but even a tasteful fashionista may not always know how to dress appropriately as she moves past 35, 40 and beyond. How do you know when it's time to lose which look? Here's our style experts' top 10 styles you're too old to wear...

1.       Message T-ShirtsRetail Retirement Age:30
Why:You’ve seen them on celebrities: “Jesus Is My Homeboy,” “Your Boyfriend Thinks I’m Hot.” The freedom to express yourself via your wardrobe is part of the teen and 20-something years… but beyond that? Letting people know you’re on “Team Kate” vs. “Team Jon” at 35 just seems, well, desperate.
“The message tee boom was fueled by Young Hollywood,” DeMartino says. “But it’s mostly a way for people to express frustration.” And that doesn’t exactly come off as mature.
Stunning Substitute:“Replace the message tee with a great-quality cotton tee you can dress up or down from a line like James Perse in the hot colors of raspberry or grape,” he says.

2. Too-Trendy Denim
Retail Retirement Age:35
Why:If it’s super-low-rise, torn, distressed, embellished with rhinestones or embroidery on the pockets or – shudder to think – characters like Mickey Mouse are patched on, go outside your house and light a bonfire now. You’re just too old to wear it.
“Because you’re not in your element with these [too-young items], you only end up looking out of place,” DeMartino says.

Stunning Substitute:Charla Krupp, TV style expert and author of the book How Not to Look Old, suggests swapping too-trendy jeans for boot-cut versions that don’t ride too low on your hips. Because of its slight flare at the leg, the boot cut minimizes hips. Plus, while skinny jeans come and go, this cut is a classic. When it comes to color, choose more conservative dark denim or black jeans. Want a funkier look? Go for trouser jeans with an exaggerated flare at the hem – a look that can take you from the PTA meeting to a party when paired with the right top. 3. Costume Shoes Retail Retirement Age:Mid-40sWhy: We’ve all done it: Buy a pair of entirely impractical, overly-theatrical shoes that weren’t suited for everyday life. Maybe they were clear plastic “stripper” heels straight out of Frederick’s of Hollywood. Or perhaps they were stilettos with a six-inch heel you could only walk a block in. Whatever the case, 40-something fashionistas will look fresher without the too-trendy cork wedges, thigh-high boots or up-to-the-knee Gladiator sandals seen on envelope-pushing A-list youngsters such as Mary-Kate Olsen and Rachel Bilson. “Anything too high or too crazy should be avoided,” DeMartino says.Stunning Substitute:Toning down what’s on your tootsies doesn’t mean you’re giving up glam, says Krupp, herself a major shoe fiend who adores heels. But finding the right shoes involves more than image: Feet lose their fatty cushion as we age, necessitating comfier pairs. Look for wider or thicker heels for better support. Also pick shoes with rubber soles or more padding on the inside – increasingly offered up in fashionable styles from Salvatore Ferragamo, Cole Haan, Aerosoles and others. 4. Micro-mini Skirts Retail Retirement Age: 40Why: “Age appropriateness [in fashion] is partially determined by who you are and what you do – so yes, Tina Turner can wear micro-minis on stage that the rest of us would look ridiculous in,” Krupp says. Unless you’re the Private Dancer herself, get yourself and your teeny skirts over to Goodwill.Stunning Substitute:Krupp’s pick? A chic straight skirt or a sexy-yet-classy pencil skirt, because both allow you to show off some curves without making you look as though you’re pretending you were born after the Reagan years. Just avoid anything four inches or more above the knee. DeMartino suggests adding tights to make a short skirt less risqué.

5. Anything Showing Excessive CleavageRetail Retirement Age:50
Why: “An older women shouldn’t feel she needs to show it all off. Anything below the middle of your [bustline] has got to go,” DeMartino says. “A little goes a long way,” writes Krupp, who in her book bans excessive “boobage” past the age of 40 and warns readers not to display too much sagging skin.
Stunning Substitute:“A well-fitted tweed vest can be worn with a blouse underneath; unbutton a few buttons and you’re going to look sexy but classy,” he says.

6. White, Ribbed Cotton Tank TopsRetail Retirement Age: 40
Why:Skimpier versions of this men’s-undershirt-style tank are worn all over Hollywood by hot actresses.
“Women today want to keep up with much younger celebrities on TV,” DeMartino says. But what’s cool on the stars of “Gossip Girl” may not work on you. These tanks must go, Krupp says.



Stunning Substitute:A scoop-neck tee from a higher-end T-shirt maker, such as Three Dots, or a double-layer cotton shirt will “still gives you the ability to show off your figure without wearing something [too young],” he says.7. Hair Gadgets/Accessories Retail Retirement Age: 30
Why:Whether it’s flowery scrunchies, banana clips or your daughter’s plastic kiddie barrettes, whimsical hair accessories are not fitting for a fully grown women.
“With Hello Kitty in your hair, you’re going to look ridiculous at your age,” DeMartino says. “Remember Chrissy from Three’s Company?”Stunning Substitute:If you must use them at all, hair accessories should be subtle – think a tortoise-shell barrette or grosgrain-ribbon headband from  J. Crew – and similar in color to your hair. But even some headbands can make for a too-young look – Krupp doesn’t like them at all past a certain age.

8. Oversized, Overly-Decorated Hobo Bags
Retail Retirement Age:50
Why:Open any magazine, and you’ll see tiny celebrities toting enormous, eye-catching handbags – the skinnier the star, the bigger the bag, it seems. Well, don’t follow suit!
“Avoid these oversized bags with all the bells and whistles…charms…quilting,” DeMartino says.“When you come to a certain age, the good news is you’re beyond trends.” Stunning Substitute:Try a super-hot-for-fall clutch. “Maybe you can’t fit as much in there, but the point of a handbag is to carry your necessities – not your life,” he says.

9. Cheap, Unflattering Underwear
Retail Retirement Age: 40
Why:“Mos women are not fitted properly when it comes to their bras,” DeMartino says. And the more a woman’s breasts [and body] begin to sag, the more important proper, good-quality undergarment are. Both DeMartino and Krupp are obsessed with body-shaping products like Spanx,  and I myself wear at conferences.
“Get a proper bra fitting at an upscale department store, and make friends with shapewear as you get older,” DeMartino says.
And keep in mind that menopause can also change your bra size. “Only the good lingerie from now on,” agrees Krupp, who notes that past age 30, underwear  needs to be as supportive as it is sexy.
Stunning Substitute: When it comes to lingerie, you get what you pay for. DeMartino recommends the Cosabella label, while Krupp favors La Perla but also endorses the lower-cost Hanky Panky and Wacoal brands.
“[Good lingerie] can be expensive, but five good bras will last you a while,” he says.



10. Loud Accessories
Retail Retirement Age: 35
Why: The  rubber bracelets, goth-inspired studded belts, zebra purses and plastic earrings proclaim to the world that you’re still plugged in to the trends. We get it – but you can look hip without the  pre-teen  trappings. Gather up your wild accessories and black nail polish and donate them to the nearest ninth-grader.
“[Accessories like nail glitter] make you look like you crashed a sleep-over party,” Krupp writes in her book.
Plus, “you never want to combine too many trends in one look,” DeMartino says.
Stunning Substitute: Think quality and quantity. Limit yourself to one funky accessory per outfit – as long as it’s well-made. Think a leopard-print scarf, thin silver bangles or a gold clutch to dress up nice jeans and a basic  top.
One last trend to toss, no matter what outfit you’re wearing: visible or colored bra straps. Your undergarments are meant to be hidden.

You’ll never go wrong with classic styles and subtle accessories, but good fashion students also know that everything in style is subjective.

We all must make her own decisions about when the break the rules, but what we are striving for isn’t to look youthful – it’s to look ageless !! This way, we are going to look more fabulous because the look is appropriate and customized  for each of us.

I think that one of the worst things we as trans-women can do to our skin and face is the sun. I know many of us are not socialized to worry about skin, but that is a main part of presentation, so be good to your skin and face, it will be with you a long time. Here are some important tips that will help, and remember as summer is upon us to cover up, wear close knit cloths and use sun-block!!

    1. Avoid the sun. It’s the No. 1 cause of wrinkles, with dozens of studies documenting the impact. In one study that looked at identical twins, New York plastic surgeon Darrick Antell,MD, found sun exposure was even more important than heredity. Siblings who limited sun time had fewer wrinkles and looked younger overall than their sun-worshiping twins.

2. Wear sunscreen. If you must go out in the sun, the American Academy of Dermatology says, wear sunscreen! It will protect you from skin cancer, and help prevent wrinkles at the same time.

3. Don’t smoke. Some of the research is still controversial, but more and more studies are confirming that cigarette smoke ages skin — mostly by releasing an enzyme that breaks down collagen and elastin, important components of the skin. Sibling studies done at the Twin Research Unit at St. Thomas Hospital in London found the brother or sister who smoked tended to have skin that was more wrinkled and up to 40% thinner than the non-smoker.

4. Get adequate sleep. Yale dermatologist Nicholas Perricone, MD, says that when you don’t get enough sleep, the body produces excess cortisol, a hormone that breaks down skin cells. Get enough rest, Perricone says, and you’ll produce more HGH (human growth hormone), which helps skin remain thick, more “elastic,” and less likely to wrinkle.

5. Sleep on your back. The American Academy of Dermatology (AAD) cautions that sleeping in certain positions night after night leads to “sleep lines — wrinkles that become etched into the surface of the skin and don’t disappear once you’re up. Sleeping on your side increases wrinkles on cheeks and chin, while sleeping face-down gives you a furrowed brow. To reduce wrinkle formation, the AAD says, sleep on your back.

6. Don’t squint — get reading glasses! The AAD says any repetitive facial movement — like squinting — overworks facial muscles, forming a groove beneath the skin’s surface. This groove eventually becomes a wrinkle. Also important: Wear sunglasses. It will protect skin around the eyes from sun damage — and further keep you from squinting.

7. Eat more fish — particularly salmon. Not only is salmon (along with other cold-water fish) a great source of protein — one of the building blocks of great skin — it’s also an awesome source of an essential fatty acid known as omega-3. Perricone tells WebMD that essential fatty acids help nourish skin and keep it plump and youthful, helping to reduce wrinkles.

8. Eat more soy. So far, most of the proof has come from animal studies, but research does show certain properties of soy may help protect or heal some of the sun’s photo-aging damage. In one recent human study, published in the European Journal of Nutrition, researchers reported that a soy-based supplement (other ingredients included fish protein and extracts from white tea, grapeseed, and tomato, as well as several vitamins) improved skin’s structure and firmness after just six months of use.

9. Eat more fruits and vegetables. The key, says Kraus, are their antioxidant compounds. These compounds fight damage caused by free radicals (unstable molecules that can damage cells), which in turn helps skin look younger and more radiant, and protects against some effects of photoaging.

10. Use moisturizer. “Women, especially, are so concerned with anti-aging products they often overlook the power of a simple moisturizer. Skin that is moist simply looks better, so lines and creases are far less noticeable,” says Ashinoff.

11. Don’t over-wash your face. According to dermatologists at the University of Maryland Medical Center, tap water strips skin of its natural barrier oils and moisture that protect against wrinkles. Wash them off too often, and you wash away protection. Moreover, unless your soap contains moisturizers, you should use a cleanser instead.